Thanks for sharing your story, BOS143. It struck a chord as I'm dealing with a similar experience, and similar memories. The question is whether we're missing that particular girl, and thinking about finding a way to be with her again, or if it's instead a larger question, of wondering whether we'll ever have that kind of intimate experience with a professional anytime soon. Did such a great experience "ruin" you for the next time you're in Vietnam?
In my case it's this 19-year-old from Myanmar that I found in some seedy massage parlor/retirement home in Bangkok's Sukhumvit 24/1 Alley during my first visit in January, definitely a random place to find anyone serviceable under the age of 50, much less 19. She claimed she had just moved to Bangkok two months ago and had started the massage job that month (don't they all say that, though?), but considering her crap massage skills I'd be inclined to believe it. She was super-shy, definitely rocking the Japanese schoolgirl vibe, no modifications or tattoos or surgeries, so after a steady diet of tatted-up nuru girls with fake breasts and mid-30's office-lady Thermae MILFS she was like a vision to me. After a weirdly intimate, very hot encounter we exchanged WhatsApp #'s, and the next night she came over to my hotel and stayed through the next afternoon. This was repeated the next day, but then I had to leave Bangkok. We kept in touch through WhatsApp over the next three months, as I knew I'd be going back, and when I returned for work again in May, she came over seven out of the nine nights I was in town. She never asked for money, but of course I know the game (I'm nearly 50, so no sane teenager is going to be with me without $$$, no matter how handsome or attractive we all think we are). I gave her about 3000B per night, or $85USD for usually 8-12 hours together. Considering most long-time overnight visits in Bangkok will run you anywhere from 6000Baht - 10kbaht, it was a steal no matter what, especially considering how much of a GF-like vibe she was giving me. It was great to have sex 2-3x a night, sure, but just as great to have her sleep with her head on my shoulder, etc, or wake up to find her stroking my hair. (It's also a very small price to pay considering you'd be lucky to pay $120 in the US for a half-hour in a cheap hotel with some bored Chinese housewife paying off someone else's gambling debt. I just did this last week, in fact).
Now I've left Bangkok again, and probably won't be back for months or a year, probably by the time I hit the landmark 50 age, so I'm dealing with thoughts of aging, of never being that lucky again, etc. We're still in touch, but I don't know how much it matters. She'll be undoubtedly long gone, either snapped up by some monger like me or by some Dubai pimp, or she'll be jaded and tatted up, tired of it all after months spent swallowing dicks from all over the globe. So while sure, I'm thinking of the great experience I just had of having a lonely teenage Burmese concubine for about ten days, but I'm also wondering if something like that will ever happen again, and from now on it'll just be a string of disappointments that will never hold a candle to her. But on the other hand, I'm a newbie to this game, and the veterans on the board here will probably attest that something like that happens all the time. Maybe. Maybe not. It's also more difficult for those of us who only visit SEA once a year to get over these experiences, unlike those of you who live in the region, and have encounters like this constantly. Fortunately for me, I later went to Phnom Penh and wound up with a similar longterm connection with a bargirl there, who I saw about five of the seven nights I was there and who's still texting me random pix of her family, so I do know it's possible to happen again.
Also, pro tip: one good way to get over your international sex-worker crush is to find out their TikTok or IG page. After looking at their posts of hot shirtless boys or memes about money, or their lip-synching to the latest Tiktok meme, you'll be over them pretty quickly, haha. Especially once you see all the likes they get from dudes from Pakistan, China, Romania, Sweden, the UAE, Australia, and every other country you can think of, and when you wonder if all their dicks have probably also been inside "your" girl.
But, for your sanity and pride, don't discount the experience you had with her; your girl could have chosen any of those other losers to spend the day with, or all those nights with, but they chose you, so I'm sure there definitely was a connection there. I'm sure she did/does like you, like I'm sure that the girl I was with liked me...at that moment. But now she's there, and you're somewhere else, and she's got some money to make, so it's time we all moved on. Maybe we'll get back there, probably not, but either way you're not bringing her to your country, so it's time to move on. Enjoy those memories, but move on.
Sorry for the ramble there. Writing this out actually helped me move on from "my girl" just now, in fact. Anyway, now I've opened myself up for the zings from the more ruthless among us on this board, but oh well. Good luck, BOS143.
